We aim to support as many men as we can
We help men connect and help each other to lead more successful, fulfilling lives.
After completing the EVRYMAN Foundations Training, I became a workshop leader and facilitator for men’s work.
Men’s work informs all my work. Some of my coaching clients want to focus on this type of work.
For me, going through the EVRYMAN material, I became aware of old patterns, how they held me back and how to release them. I tested myself and my courage to be vulnerable, honest and open.
I pushed hard to go deep and not take the easy way out. I faced fears and really challenged myself to – in ways I seldom ever had. I feel stronger, more capable and leave with a rich and nuanced understanding of emotion – because of this training.
20 Minute Video
A Presentation on Embodiment and Men’s Work
The central work of EVRYMAN: “We connect Men more deeply to their Loved Ones, their life’s work, and themselves.”
In this video, I am presenting a workshop with the co-founder of EVRYMAN about the work of the group, and share a bit about what men’s work means to me and how it overlaps with my embodiment work.
I offer training and seminars on Men’s Work.
It changed my life
Learn more about Men’s Work
Every week, I sit in a men’s group using the EVRYMAN method. No stories, no advice, just what you feel in your body and your emotions.
This practice is for myself, but also informs my work. Here’s what you do in Men’s Work:
Uncover Your Emotions
The co-founder says EVRYMAN is like “Crossfit for your emotions.”
Go Beyond Aggression and Humor
Men are often taught they can only be angry or funny. We have more emotions, and it is healing to connect with them.
Reconnect to the Body
Connecting to the body first can be a pathway for men to begin feeling a broader range of emotions.
Heal the Trauma
Men are often traumatized, and need support and acknowledgement of their full experience to get past it.
Understand What’s Driving Us
As we peel back the layers, we can understand our true motivations.
Lead Successful, Fulfilling Lives
Knowing ourselves allows us to connect more deeply with others.
A Certificate in Meaning
EVRYMAN Foundations Certification
The EVRYMAN’s Foundations Training is a 8-month deep dive into men’s work.
8 months of . . . weekly calls, a ton of reading, discussion, learnings, and retreats.⠀⠀⠀⠀
Plus regular weekly attendance at my EVRYMAN’s Men’s Group.
I am deeply honored to be part of the first cohort of EVRYMAN’s Foundations Training, adding an arsenal of conscious and emotionally aware men into my circle of friends.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
We are an army of bold, brilliant, and courageous men who are working towards healing men and the world. After completing the EVRYMAN Foundations Training, I became a workshop leader and facilitator for men’s work.
Men’s Work Transformations
Client Testimonials
"I recommend Stephen Kotev as a personal coach."
Ron Thurston
Vice President of INTERMIX fashion and Author of Retail Pride
"[Stephen’s] calming, intuitive, and honest coaching style created an experience for me that was life-changing. His listening and communication skills are indeed phenomenal, and Stephen's wide-ranging intellect and knowledge base are such that he connects with so many different types of personalities."
"Stephen is an amazing coach."
Steve Stave
Principal, Visualities
"Stephen is an amazing coach. He is very warm and inviting, and incredibly easy to talk to. His use of noticing how I physically felt around certain discussion points was very helpful to me. He took his time to truly notice "where I was" at any given time during our sessions. I would recommend Stephen as a coach in a heartbeat."
"Stephen is safe, encouraging, motivational, dynamic and helps you implement sustainable change."
Monica Hudson
EEO Complaints Program Manager, National Institute of Standards and Technology (NIST)
"If you aren’t willing to be direct and just want someone to fill in the blanks and tell you what to do – then he’s not for you. You better be willing to work hard. If you do, you will get your money’s worth. Stephen is safe, encouraging, motivational, dynamic and helps you implement sustainable change."
“[Stephen’s] coaching transitioned me from post-traumatic stress.”
John DeRosa
Veteran of Iraq and Balkan wars, career national security professional and aspiring conflict resolution practitioner
"From our very first meeting Stephen has been a readily accessible teacher tremendously committed to supporting his students in and out of the classroom. His versatile approach enables shaping of everyday moments into opportunities to deepen self-awareness and build vital skills. His coaching transitioned me from post-traumatic stress to reflective practitioner."
“I can highly recommend him to anyone who is looking for a presenter that will provide meaningful skills to practitioners in the conflict engagement field.”
Bryan Hanson
Assistant Director, The Werner Institute for Negotiation & Dispute Resolution
"I am very pleased with the effort and thought that Stephen puts into his work. He recently provided a webinar for our website www.adrhub.com. This was a new format for him to deliver his material and Stephen showed a high level proficiency with the content of the presentation and comfort with the technology. I look forward to working with Stephen in the future and can highly recommend him to anyone who is looking for a presenter that will provide meaningful skills to practitioners in the conflict engagement field."
“Stephen’s expertise in the areas of body awareness, group facilitation and conflict resolution shone through in his very personable and interactive manner of training.”
Megan Johnston
Director of the Northern Virginia Mediation Service
"Stephen led a dynamic training session for Northern Virginia Mediation Service in Fairfax, Virginia. The audience included conflict resolution practitioners from highly diverse backgrounds. Stephen was able to connect with each participant, adapting his techniques constantly to meet the needs of the group as well as those of individuals. Stephen’s expertise in the areas of body awareness, group facilitation and conflict resolution shone through in his very personable and interactive manner of training. I highly recommend Stephen Kotev as a speaker, trainer and consultant."
“Stephen’s work is high quality, and it is a pleasure to work with him.”
Omar Badawi
Senior Advisor for the Middle East and North Africa Division of the American Bar Association Rule of Law Initiative
“Stephen gave several conflict analysis and resolution training workshops, and developed a course module on the subject for the American Bar Association Rule of Law Initiative. The workshops and module addressed cross-cultural conflict, tools for analyzing conflict and preparing for mediation. Stephen’s work is high quality, and it is a pleasure to work with him.”
“I learned so much...Thank you very much for your professional guidance.”
Marla K - Rankin
Human Resource Development, Strategic Advisor for US Marine Corps sharing her experience as a mentee mediator
"What an awesome experience having you as my co-mediator. I learned so much during those hours and can contribute new insight from the experience. You have phenomenal skills and demonstrate neutral approaches that are especially a style that compliments Marine Corps culture. I will always remember your demonstration. I feel strongly that no other style would have such success with our initiator. Thank you for your patience and time. When we concluded, you spent 9 1/2 hours in this process! What a demonstration of commitment. I hope our paths cross in the future and thank you very much for your professional guidance."
"AMAZING!"
George Mason University Conflict Resolution Undergraduate Student
"You did a great job of pushing students out of the comfort zone while also respecting their boundaries"
SUPER PRACTICAL
George Mason University Conflict Resolution Undergraduate Student
"Learned skills I will use for the rest of my life Hands on and lots of participation was fantastic and conducive to learning skills to help you regulate yourself in stressful situations."
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